2024-10-25

Why Men Often Feel They Need to Suffer Alone: The Silent Struggle in Australia

By: Drake WellbeingHub

 

In Australia, many men experience mental health struggles in silence, largely due to societal expectations and outdated norms around masculinity. Cultural pressures often encourage men to present themselves as strong, stoic, and emotionally self-reliant. As a result, men may feel shame or weakness in seeking help for emotional or mental challenges, believing they need to “tough it out” alone.

Research from Beyond Blue highlights that while men experience mental health issues at similar rates to women, they are far less likely to seek help. According to data from the Australian Bureau of Statistics (ABS), men are three times more likely than women to die by suicide, pointing to the severe consequences of untreated mental health issues. Moreover, a 2019 survey by Movember revealed that 33% of Australian men admitted to feeling pressure to be "emotionally strong" and avoid showing vulnerability, further contributing to a reluctance to reach out for support​.

This societal expectation of emotional self-sufficiency often leads to the misconception that vulnerability is a weakness, and asking for help might make men feel as though they are failing at masculinity. In reality, this cultural narrative creates barriers to accessing vital mental health care.

The Impact of “Suffering in Silence”

When men internalise emotional struggles, it can lead to a range of negative outcomes. Without open dialogue or support, feelings of loneliness, stress, and depression can worsen. Long-term, this isolation can result in increased risk factors for anxiety, addiction, and suicide. Beyond Blue’s statistics show that approximately 1 in 8 Australian men will experience depression, and 1 in 5 will experience anxiety at some point in their lives, yet many still feel they need to carry these burdens alone.

In workplaces, this culture of silence can exacerbate the challenges men face. When employees feel they cannot discuss mental health openly, productivity and overall workplace wellbeing suffer. Creating a culture where vulnerability is accepted, and seeking help is encouraged can drastically change this narrative.

How We Can Change the Narrative

The first step to addressing this issue is breaking down the stigma surrounding men’s mental health. This requires a cultural shift that normalises vulnerability and emotional expression as signs of strength, not weakness. Open conversations about mental health, particularly in male-dominated industries and environments, can help create safe spaces for men to seek support.

Organisations like Movember and Beyond Blue are instrumental in raising awareness around men’s mental health. Through campaigns, education, and community involvement, they are helping to dismantle harmful stereotypes and encourage men to prioritise their wellbeing.

Supporting Men’s Mental Health

To address the silent struggles of men, we need to promote open conversations, build support networks, and make mental health resources accessible. It’s vital that men understand they don’t need to “man up” or handle life’s challenges alone. Instead, they should be encouraged to reach out, seek help, and foster connections with friends, family, and professionals.

Encouraging men to engage with mental health resources, such as counselling, peer support, or even anonymous online forums, can provide the assistance they need without the fear of judgment. Creating supportive environments in workplaces, social circles, and families will also help men feel empowered to address their mental health openly.

The narrative that men must suffer in silence is outdated and dangerous. Australian men are facing an urgent mental health crisis, compounded by societal expectations that make it difficult for them to seek help. By encouraging vulnerability, open dialogue, and access to support, we can create a culture where men feel empowered to prioritise their mental wellbeing, without fear of stigma.

It’s time to shift the conversation and remind men that it’s okay to not be okay—and they don’t have to go through it alone.

 

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